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To Mark the 1 Year Anniversary of being told ‘You have Cancer’ – Here are the 22 Things Cancer Taught Me

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22 Things Cancer Taught Me (www.getfoxfit.com)

1 year ago today, 5th August 2013, it was a warm, sunny, bright and beautiful summers day when I heard those 3 words no one ever wants to hear, “You have cancer”.

A whole year ago – crazy.  It seems like yesterday that I felt the ball in my abdomen and went to the hospital for an ultrasound, that lead to a CT scan, that lead to being told by the Urologist I had a massive tumor and it was kidney cancer AND it wasn’t looking too good for me.  If you are interested in reading how the events of those first days happened you can read my story and ‘diary’ here.

So 365 days.  How fast you have gone by but how amazingly pertinent you have all been.  Those days before, during and after surgery and all of the days since have been filled with more change than I could have ever imagined.

I can certainly say the last year has been one of growth, acceptance, new experiences and a whole lot of change.

To mark the 1 year anniversary I wanted to share with you the 22 things cancer has taught me:

1. Be honest

Especially with yourself

2. Worrying won’t change the outcome 

So be happy and positive instead

3. Evaluate what really makes you happy

Those things (big or small) will be the essence of your life and the things that precious memories are made of

4. Communicate with your loved ones

Plain and simple, even better relationships can be built through unforeseen and challenging times

5. Let go

Thoughts of I wish I did this, or I wish I said that, or I wish I made a different decision… well it’s all in the past, let it go

6. Slow down

Stop rushing through your food, savour the moment and the taste.  Breath deeply and slowly when you write an email.  Enjoy the ‘ride’ and journey of getting somewhere. Life is not a race.  Enjoy it and be in the moment – yes, even when you are doing the dishes or folding your washing, there are joys in these little things, it just takes a different attitude to see and appreciate them.  Do things with love.  Enjoy the gift that is the present

7. Don’t concern yourself with what others think

The only person you need to impress is yourself

8. Ask yourself

Are you a better person than you were yesterday? Do at least one thing every day that your future self will thank you for

9. Be here, now

Use all of your 5 senses to truly be in the moment.  For example if you are out having coffee/tea take a look around. What is going on around you? (Put your phone away), listen to the soundtrack of where you are (jazz music or energetic chatter), take a moment and really smell that glorious coffee/tea, feel the small expresso cup or gigantic mug in your hands and of course savour the taste.  All too often these things are rushed and we don’t even stop, look around or take in the moment.  These moments create the most memorable memories ;)

10. Mindfulness

Going a few steps further from what I have said above – check out ‘5 tips to bring mindfulness into your everyday life’ here

11. Do those things that niggle at the back of your mind

Like tidying out a kitchen cupboard that is over stacked and annoys you, edit your closet, back up your photos, organise your music files etc.  Believe me if you do that one thing that niggles at the back of your mind you are giving yourself something you cannot buy = freedom and the sense of accomplishment

12. Be accountable for your health and make good choices that feel right for you

Ultimately no one is responsible for your health apart from you.  You are the one who chooses what to eat, whether to exercise or sport, what to put in / on your body, how much stress you put on yourself, whether to see a Dr or specialist and what attitude & mindset to have.  Knowledge is Power.  Trust your instincts.  I have made a promise to my body and mind that I will do all in my power to keep it healthy and cancer free and make confident decisions

13. Do not take life for granted

Once you are faced with the possibility of The End, you quickly learn how to appreciate the little things and the here and now.  Life is precious

14. Help people

Whether it is helping a person pack / carry their shopping, participating in charity, sharing your knowledge or being a ‘listening ear’ for someone, these are the things that make us a better person

15. Be about it 

Definition here

16. You do not have to finish everything immediately

A good friend brought this to my attention as she noticed that I try and get things done (and finished) sooner rather than later, even though they are tasks that don’t need to be finished quickly.  So slow down, appreciate what you are doing and have pleasure in the task at hand.  Don’t rush through things, take your time and enjoy

17. Have fun and find fun

Having fun is essential – what is life if you cannot smile and savour fun activities, moments and things?  So do what makes you happy.  Doing something that you find challenging or mundane? Find the fun in it!  It really does change things around

18. Take a moment to truly see what is happening around you

Too often there are distractions – but just look up and see what’s happening.  It may be people in the train, the kids breakdancing in the house, your significant other doing something funny, nature or beautiful architectural designs in the streets, whatever.  Just check it out.  You may pass a certain house or building every day, but have you really looked at it?  You spend time with your kids and loved ones, but have you taken a moment just to see what they do when they think you aren’t looking?  These are the moments you may miss or not think twice about but they can be the most precious times

19. Make a decision

Be happy with your decision(s).  Feel confident in what you decide on and most important of all JUST MAKE A DECISION.  Too often we don’t make a decision, and I don’t know about you but the time spent deciding on something usually costs a lot of energy.  So be bold, weigh up your options and just make a decision – you will feel a whole lot better after!  AND you can move on. What a wonderful feeling that is

20. Do what you feel like doing

Feel like being arty?  Then paint or pick up that pen and sketch pad.  Feel like dancing in your living room?  Turn your fav tune up loud and do it.  Feel like speaking with a friend? Call them!  Feel like making soup / a cake?  Do it!  Feel like hoovering or rearrange things?  Do it!  SEIZE those moments.  Those are moments of productivity and creativity, so Just Do It… you will thank yourself later

21. Time does heal and things will change

As cliche as it sounds time does heal.  In some cases it doesn’t take the sadness / hurt / pain away completely but it certainly helps.  So have faith that things will (and do) change.  You are NOT stuck in this moment right now forever.  Circumstances change, energy changes and most importantly you will change – your feelings, your outlook and your emotions.  Just keep the faith (as Bon Jovi sang) and have hope

22. All you need is a little change of heart / Love Will Save the Day

In all honesty I have never really been big on listening to specific song for their lyrics (I’ve always been more interested in the music and vibe than the words) but this one does it for me, especially through those roller coaster months.  Whitney sings (and says) it best… so if you need a little uplifting, or just want a little 80’s Awesomeness click here:

Every day is a gift.

Make it count and count your blessings :)

#seizetheday

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